Wednesday, 02 December 2009
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Liar Liar
In the movie Liar Liar starring Jim Carrey there is a scene where after the spell is placed upon him for one day not to be able to tell a lie, he has a rather uncomfortable exchange on the phone with his mother where he tells her that he avoids her calls because she insist on talking about his father’s bowel movements, size, shape, frequency, etc.. I can watch this movie over and over again just because of scenes like this where the truth must be told regardless of how uncomfortable, politically incorrect or harsh the testimonials.
In our society part of the reasoning behind lying and political correctness is to avoid confrontation thus ignoring our responsibility to be concerned citizens because if you keep your mouth shut or say only what you presume to be acceptable you are generally able to keep the peace and are never forced to get involved.
But What If? What might happen in that 24 hour period and then subsequently if only the truth be told?
I imagine that some relationships would be irreparably damaged but then again others in distress could perhaps be healed. There would most certainly be those in powerful positions exposed for their corrupt deeds but then maybe we would realize that others do have honest intentions. We may discover that abuses are happening against friends and neighbors but then maybe some of us would finally step up to speak out in their defense.
What an interesting world this would be if for one day we stated with candor what was on our minds, were forced to answer a pointed question truthfully or genuinely expressed what was in our hearts. hmm
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I agree with you so completely. (And that is probably my favorite Jim Carey movie!) It is sad that we often dont say something for fear of how people will feel about it. Just yesterday Jim (my husband) made the comment that it is sad he can tell his best friend that he doesnt like his girlfriend, but he cant say the same to his brother!
we think a like.
@der_lila_Stern@xanga - Your husband is probably right because it would most likely not change anything with the girlfriend and may only damage the relationship with his brother. If she was doing something hurtful or cheating it would definitely be warrented. Every relationship is different. I have managed to cause some rifts in my life over issues that maybe I should not have spoken out about but I don't think I could feel like I've been true to myself if I had not spoken out about others. I have learned over time to sometimes just back away and not even be involved in certain people's lives because they insist on telling me their business but expect me not to comment. Oopsy, LOL Thank you for the rec!!!. That is very kind of you :)
I love that movie. This is why living with my mother kills me so...I'm not good at sugar coating things or ignoring the truth. I can, momentarily, smile and repeat over and over inside my head, "If you can't say anything nice...", but that only works for me in the short term. Anything longer than 15 minutes and my mouth (or fingers) starts moving all it's own, I swear. Not everyone can appreciate that and thus I don't have a million friends. LOL I've learned to preface somethings with, "Don't take this the wrong way..." Part of me is just itching to scream, "Hey crazy lady!! You have 10 dogs because you're "lonely", but nobody wants to come to your house because YOU HAVE TEN DOGS!! You want people to accept your crazy, but you won't look past even the most minor of flaws on the part of potential boyfriends, so I dodge your calls because I'm tired of hearing about how much you wish you had a man!!" But that would result in punishment to me; I do have to depend on her kindness to get out of the house since we're in BFE and Tim has my car while I'm here... *sigh* So, I keep a lid on it.
I do wonder how bad it would be though... Some of the things that make it out of people's mouthes with this veil of PC, sugar-coating on can be pretty rough... I don't know that I want to know what would happen with the gloves off! The herd would be thinned, to say the least...
@filtered_sunlight@momaroo - 10 Dogs!!!!!!!!!
I think when we say, "don't take this the wrong way" it's really saying "I really hope you get the full throtle of what I'm saying here!" I actually have a t-shirt with thumper on the front and the saying "if you can't say something nice" Funny thing is that I only wear it to bed because the only time I'm inclined to keep my mouth shut is while I'm sleeping. LOL
@P1AutismMom - Exactly. There are a few instances where I later thought, "I should have just kept my trap shut.", but, at the same time, there are just as many where I feel like if I didn't speak up, I'd be a big fat phony... Yeah...there are many family members that I refuse to be involved with and I've cut a few "friends" loose after they helped me into a bad situation by sharing their business with me and making me feel like I needed/they wanted me to speak up...and then having them turn on me when I did! What the...?! LOL
@P1AutismMom - LOL. I was just gifted a set of Thumper PJs! (My mom's friends are her friends because they share some of the same crazy; one just happens to buy things and decide later that she doesn't want them, so, yeah, I have a brand-new, tags-still-on set of Thumper PJs.) My "Don't take this the wrong way..." usually translates into, "Look, dumbass, I'm trying to help you by letting you in on what the rest of the world is saying behind your back...please don't get upset with me! I am trying. to. HELP."
I should watch that movie. :)
@filtered_sunlight@momaroo - I think people that know me well enough would know not to bring up their personal issues unless they wanted my honest opinion. I told everyone in my family just before my mom died this year that I did not want to hear about their nonsense. Consequently I don't hear anything from them. Interesting and much quieter to my ears and for my mind.
@Duhiana@xanga - You haven't seen it?? You will laugh your head off, it's sooooo funny!!!! If you don't LOL I would be shocked. ha ha
@P1AutismMom - Funny how death and dying seem to cause the nonsense to flare... And I suppose that does put things into perspective when you told them that you didn't want to hear nonsense and you ge absolute silence!! LOL
Some lie to save themselves, others lie to save others. Either way, lying is still bad.
Good thoughts! I do wonder~ for the person who never stops talking~ what could conspire in 24 hours of silence. lol
@Reckless@mancouch - That is a great way to put it!! I had never heard that saying before.
@WildWomanOfTheWest@xanga - For that particular person..... pretty sure their head would implode. LOL
@filtered_sunlight@momaroo - LOL, that is so funny!!!!!!!!!!! I never even thought about that. LOL
@P1AutismMom - LOL Actually, I was thinking what could be generated outside of that person. But ok~ that works. lol
@P1AutismMom - @filtered_sunlight@momaroo - Ahh, there have been a time or twelve where I've prefaced a statement with, "This is going to p*** you off, I'm likely going to say it precisely the wrong way, and you don't have to take my opinion as The Final Word; however..." - and finishing with, "But, then again, I've always had the tendency of _____________" [something equally bad].
Telling the truth, but wrapping it in a combination of fluffy pillows and a target for archery? I don't know, but those who minded the truth, eventually, didn't stick around - so they didn't matter; those who didn't mind [or could get over] the truth have been friends of mine for better than five years on a stretch.
It's true: people are really very lucky if they can get maybe few friends in their lives...sure is a different world from when I had cloistered clusters of "close fiends" [what they today call "frienemies"].
Yes, I'm back; just taking a while to catch up.
I have a very difficult time keeping my mouth shut. (Just ask April and Sarah) To put it simply, stupid people annoy me and I feel the need to tell them just how stupid they are. I would love nothing than to walk up to my sister and tell her; "Hey bitch, you are an egocentric piece of crap that only sniffs around Mom because you are hoping she will leave you all her money. You are too stupid to even realize the crazy hag will bury herself with the money because she is too selfish to give it up." Some people might find that harsh though.
Could this be why I have so few friends?
@gwacemom@momaroo - Uh, possibly a factor in your small circle of friends but then again I don't like crowds so I'm good with that. ha ha
@the_kcar@xanga - Hey, Hi There! I knew you were still out there somewhere. lol I was thinking that I should take a little break from computer based activity. I know my son would love that since we share the one working PC in the house. LOL
@P1AutismMom - LOL, fortunately, my few friends adore me for reasons I can't imagine. I will stick to the smaller circle and let the others worry about the big ones.
I wish we all could be so totally honest all the time :) A lot of people would get their feelings hurt though. lol
@gwacemom@momaroo - QUALITY over QUANTITY! LOL
@AbsolutelyNormalChaos61308@xanga - That's what I love about being in my 40's. My feelings don't get hurt much anymore. ha ha My son read my post and said, "Mom, that would not be a good thing" I told him we could figure out the difference between honesty vs just being rude but I''m sure he was thinking it might start a war or something drastic like that. LOL